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We're constantly amazed by the clever, unique, brilliant and beautiful books and products our customers create. Today we’d like to introduce you to Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor Debbie Tudor, who specializes in Divorce Recovery, Stress and Anxiety management, Depression, Women’s Issues, Recovery from Narcissistic parents and/or spouse, and Spirituality. Debbie is a prolific author on these topics, including the book “It’s Not You, It’s Them: 30 Days of Hope and Help for the Adult Child of a Narcissistic Parent.”

The story of Debbie’s book “It’s Not You, It’s Them”

Q: What inspired you to write this book?

I’ve been a Licensed Professional Counselor for 23 years. I realized again and again that the wounds caused by a difficult childhood, particularly one where the parent had no empathy and was self-centered, could be addressed in a workbook that combined information and exercises for healing. I became certified in Narcissistic Abuse Recovery a few years ago, and this workbook presents the tools needed for healing. It can be used independently or as a supplement to therapy.

Q: What advice would you give for aspiring authors reading this?

If you have a creative way of helping, professional expertise in the field, and a writing talent, then write down step by step instructions for others who may be in the same situation. I will say that writing content was the easiest part for me-publishing was complicated! Vervante helped a great deal with the details of getting a book published. 

I also recommend that you connect online with others in your field. My book is selling worldwide because of a connection to another Narcissistic Abuse Recovery website.

Q: What do you love about your book?

What I love about my book is that I take a warm, loving and patient approach to this very sensitive topic. It’s a way for people who can’t afford therapy to get professional, expert help, and most of all PERMISSION to feel the pain and ultimately let it go. I also give practical tips on dealing with the narcissistic parent if they are still in their lives.

About “It’s Not You, It’s Them: 30 Days of Hope and Help for the Adult Child of a Narcissistic Parent”

Written by Debbie Tudor, a licensed, professional therapist who is certified by Dr. Karyl McBride to treat the adult victims of narcissistic parents, this workbook offers concise, practical insights and journaling exercises to give help and hope to those suffering from the effects of currently dealing with, or having been raised by, a narcissist. Debbie's 20 plus years of experience as a licensed counselor gives her many stories to tell and new ways of protecting yourself and finding freedom.

Do you wonder why you have low self-esteem, don't trust your own judgment, continually seem to be apologizing to others, and are often depressed or anxious? Do you just feel “not good enough?” She explains the effects of this childhood on the adult and gives excellent explanations of the family roles: Narcissist, Enabler Parent, Golden Child, and Scapegoat. You will see yourself clearly for possibly the first time as you read the information, work the affirmations, and do the journaling exercises.

“It's Not You, It's Them: 30 Days of Hope and Help for The Adult Child of a Narcissistic Parent” will make you feel less alone in the issues that you face, as you read the stories shared and the solutions proposed to the problems you may face. Debbie shares her own experience as the adult child of a narcissist, plus stories from the lives of her patients and others, in short paragraphs, then gives you journaling challenges to overcome these challenges in your own life. There are affirmations that are specifically tailored to help overcome the wounds that are unique to a person in this position, as well as practical ideas on how to handle the narcissistic parent in the present day. This is a very personalized way to work your recovery, whether alone or with a licensed therapist.

Learn more

Learn more about Debbie’s book here: https://rockwall-counseling.com/product/its-not-you-its-them-30-days-of-hope-and-healing/

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